One day a mother came to one of my childhood massage lessons with a pile of books, and she was in tears. He wanted me to tell you which book he should follow for the education of his child since they all contradicted each other. In this article, we share educating children tips on love, protection, presence, and intuition.

As a massage therapist, I cannot give advice, I can only guide parents to find out what is best for them and their children by asking questions and reflecting. I only asked her what her favorite book was and she immediately pulled it out of the pile! Then I said to her: “Well, it seems that this is the most useful book for you and your child,” and she added: “… But my mother-in-law, and the doctor, and the midwife …”

Modern parents are often lost under the weight of excessive information. There is such a huge amount of information circulating on newborns. It is only two clicks away from the mouse. This is often contradictory information. But in a sense, I do not consider it a problem. On the contrary, opposing ideas often give rise to new ideas and greater clarity.

Educating children properly

The important thing to remember is that parents have insights and ideas about educating children. They have a “little voice” that tells them what’s best for their children. All specialists who surround parents should have the sole purpose of helping them discover this inner wisdom. It is not found in any book or brochure.

It takes a lot of courage to let go of everything we consider “true” and create a cocoon around the parent to find out what is best for the newborn. It is generally very simple. We can help clear the field of too much information that is given to the parent and replace them with an atmosphere where the intuition can bloom.

Protect the child

Today the children very little experience many stimuli with increasing precocity. They are put in car seats, in elastic seats, in front of computer and TV videos. They travel by car, on buses, on trains, on airplanes, and on the subway. They walk down the street in strollers looking at the road instead of turning to the person who pushes them; listen to phones and radios. They have monitors that control and “swim” them in the electromagnetic field of the wireless internet.

I propose to develop a culture of educating children. If we want the next generation to begin to get rid of any syndrome, I propose a simple approach to the care of newborns, full of ‘ love and to support mutual between parents, so they can enjoy watching their children while gradually bloom plan as it is certain that they will do. Let’s leave behind the competitions between crawlers and replace them with babies who crawl free in a safe environment while their mothers chat happily. Let’s strive to seriously study the dangers of immersing our children in electromagnetic fields and instead of controlling them via a monitor, let’s keep them close to us.

Toys

We replace the ever-increasing need of so-called “educational toys,” which children find boring after a couple of tests, and prefer simple natural games. Let’s get away from the overflowing presence of plastic (plastic baby bottles, massage plastic gums, plastic spoon, plastic plate, plastic baby chair, plastic gate, plastic bib, plastic fruits and vegetables, plastic toy cars and plastic clothes).

The senses of the children, the reflexes, and the nervous system need protection to be able to open without risks. To remain protected, with an informed choice of things to see, touch and listen. Of the smells, voices, equilibriums to be experimented and with someone they love is all that is needed for the little ones. This is the meaning of “education” for them. And yes, when babies arrive, they are at the center of our universe, that’s how it must be.

The last intuition

The authority that unfolds around the little ones should be the one guided by love and abandonment of the self to be able to “be with.” A “factual” presence, as Winnicott could have called it. A “continuity of being” that becomes a presence. It is difficult to describe, going beyond personal interest. It is pervaded by a deep sense of responsibility that is not easy to capture in words.

It happens naturally in some couples, or through the extended family and friends. Our post-industrial society wanted the authentic community groups to be increasingly lacking, and mothers suffer isolation at a level never experienced before in human history.

Mother in educating children

Before, and certainly still in some communities of the world, the child and mother were taken over by society as a whole. Of course, the mothers had other mothers, their mothers or sisters, and cousins around them. So, giving birth to a child was not a big problem. It was part of the course of life. Today mothers have to go to specialists, or take lessons to find the sharing and support necessary for their ability to “be with.”

On the one hand, they feel more capable if they learn the strategies to deal with colic, constipation and sleep problems of the child, but even the researchers of this IAIM program say that it is the complex that works, not the individual pieces. Often, the closeness experienced by the parents is what makes them able to perceive that they are not alone in their new adventure that others ask themselves the same things; and parents of older children may be the best counselors in the world.

Parents only need the presence of others to know how to take care of educating children, and the economic security of being able to do so.

My invitation to all government leaders is to seriously consider the possibility of educating children by parents to stay with their children, at least for a year, and even better for three years, with the possibility of reaching six. In the long run, such a change would certainly only be able to give society an incredible treasure trove of therapeutic resources that would otherwise be wasted without necessity.

If structured recommendations or special courses need to exist, they should perhaps be aimed at educating children. Giving them and their senses the opportunity to develop, to hatch in due time. You do not need anything else.